This book is amazing in lots of ways. Its direct, hard-hitting language: blood, sex, urine, and shit. It starts with a photo of a young girl running from an explosion in a war-torn country. She loses her family. She encounters a wolf in a trap chewing off his leg to get free. The main characters are various artists. Its theme: women and war and art. So timely. Read More
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What is the Real Story in your memoir; fiction or nonfiction
December 24, 2015
5 TIPS for uncovering it
Always start with a short meditation or quiet moment to improve your concentration
1 Write an anecdote from one period of the person’s life. If a memoir, choose yourself.
2 Describe in detail two memories from that time. Use all your senses — touch (fabric), hearing, smell, sight, and taste (food is SO resonant).
3 What was going on for the person at this time? What decisions was he or she facing? What transitions? What path did he or she not take?
4 Then pull your thoughts together and write a scene about this time in present or past tense. Select a point of view and establish a tone. Use action verbs. Try to avoid “was” or “there” as they are weak words.
5 Use dialogue between people that has tension or humor in it.
By now you have a chapter, maybe a short story, and can go on to the next.
If you want to send me an email about how this approach worked for you, please do. Valerie@valerieharms.com
Or we can have a phone consultation for $40.
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Always start with a short meditation or quiet moment to improve your concentration
1 Write an anecdote from one period of the person’s life. If a memoir, choose yourself.
2 Describe in detail two memories from that time. Use all your senses — touch (fabric), hearing, smell, sight, and taste (food is SO resonant).
3 What was going on for the person at this time? What decisions was he or she facing? What transitions? What path did he or she not take?
4 Then pull your thoughts together and write a scene about this time in present or past tense. Select a point of view and establish a tone. Use action verbs. Try to avoid “was” or “there” as they are weak words.
5 Use dialogue between people that has tension or humor in it.
By now you have a chapter, maybe a short story, and can go on to the next.
If you want to send me an email about how this approach worked for you, please do. Valerie@valerieharms.com
Or we can have a phone consultation for $40.
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On the solstice
December 21, 2015
Have a restful holiday season!
Spend time with your friends and family.
(Or don't, if that's the surer path to peace and harmony.)
Go to parties if you're an extravert.
(Avoid them if you're not. It's OK. Lots of us will be reading.)
Spend time with your friends and family.
(Or don't, if that's the surer path to peace and harmony.)
Go to parties if you're an extravert.
(Avoid them if you're not. It's OK. Lots of us will be reading.)
Patti Smith's M Train
December 14, 2015
This book is as elusive as Bob Dylan's Chronicles. There's more about her cats than friends but I think that is natural in an older woman. She seems to live in a nice apartment in NYC as well as able to remodel a cottage and jet around the world as she feels like it, mostly in connection with gigs. There is little about composing or performing though. There's much more about searching for coffee, visiting graves, and the books she's reading. I admire most her ability to write about dreams and life flowingly and her high level of thought and her tender feelings about her husband, Fred, and her now-grown children. Reading her memory "stops" haunted my dreams only I can't say why except that she writes from a deep well. Read More
Books & Podcasts
November 27, 2015
Am reading Ivan Doig's Last Bus to Wisdom. It is so charming and he has such an original style and it was his last book -- I recommend it.
Also listening to Sherman's and Jess' podcast called "A Tiny Sense of Accomplishment", their repartee about writing life, and then true art when Sherman read about saying goodbye to his dog. He always breaks my heart. Read More
Also listening to Sherman's and Jess' podcast called "A Tiny Sense of Accomplishment", their repartee about writing life, and then true art when Sherman read about saying goodbye to his dog. He always breaks my heart. Read More
Workshop with Heide
November 18, 2015
Here is a photo of our board after the workshop was over. I am so glad I had a private lunch with Heidi as we really connected over love for animals and Anais Nin.
In her presentation she mentioned how self-rejection leads to loneliness. We project rejection, real & imaginal, and then try to protect ourselves.
In her presentation she mentioned how self-rejection leads to loneliness. We project rejection, real & imaginal, and then try to protect ourselves.
Workshop on Loneliness
October 31, 2015
I've been working on a program Montana Friends of Jung is hosting in Bozeman Nov. 13-14. Jungian analyst Heide Kolb will be the presenter (see www.jungianwork.com). Loneliness will be explored as a link to grief, a symbol, and how to transform it from debilitating to creative. Ask me for a flyer if interested.
Panel at Missoula Book Festival
September 15, 2015
The weekend is over. Many writers and book lovers gathered at venues around the city. I was on a panel on Publishing Perspectives. I told the story behind each of my books. For several I've had no agent, several sold right away, a couple were work for hire (although one of those was for a high fee), one was with a top agent, and 2 others self-published. I cover the territory.
I always enjoy breakfast at Catalyst, the Farmers Market, and ice cream at the Big Dipper.
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I always enjoy breakfast at Catalyst, the Farmers Market, and ice cream at the Big Dipper.
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Rafa Nadal & Hilfiger
August 24, 2015
I am rather blown away by Nadal's gorgeous body as it appears in the T. Hilfiger ads. Also surprised that he posed as he is rather shy, except on the tennis court he's a warrior. Earlier this summer tennis star Stan Wawrinka posed nude. What's with these tennis players?
Sex & Love
August 18, 2015
On Medium.com I just published a blog about my response to an article in Vanity Fair on those who use the dating apps to hook up. I'd also just read Kent Haruf's tender book Our Souls at Night. I am concerned about hasty sex with little conversation and what it does to the souls of both men and women. Read More